How do i get this player to settle down and show him that hes the lucky one and i dont need him?

thers this guy he just admited to me that he likes me and i admited the same thing back well theres a dance coming up and he asked if it were ok if he danced wit other girls(grinding) i said i didnt care because its not like we are dating and he said exactly but then the next day he asked if i dated someone would i b ok with him grinding with other girls and i said no as long as i had the same freedom with other guys...i know we are young and we both want freedom and i am very laid back when it comes 2 stuff like that but when u choose to date someone you should have more loyalty than that am i right? i kinda want the guy im dating not to want another guy all over me and he shouldnt want to dance wit n e other girls unless its friendly. should i tell him what i really think? would this make me sound to controlling? how do i make him settle down a lil bit if he wants to be wit me. or should i just forget him? i want to show him that i dont need him and hes lucky that i like him?How do i get this player to settle down and show him that hes the lucky one and i dont need him?
I think that many girls go into a relationship hoping to change their boyfriend, but in reality that is impossible. The guy will always be a player, no matter how awesome you are or how much he likes you. It's not worth putting yourself in a vulnerable situation with someone you don't really trust. Forget him before you're in too deep! He'll realize his mistake and kick himself later.How do i get this player to settle down and show him that hes the lucky one and i dont need him?
Well, I'd tell him that if he wants to dance with other girls is better if he went alone. You can get a better date for the dance.
You already gave him permission, you can't take it back now. If you didn't like it, you should have said so in the first place. You sound too young to be grinding anyting other than pepper. And you don't get him to settle down and he'll always think you're lucky to have him. Either live with it or find someone else.
Well , dance with other guys ..Talk with other guys But do it for your self ..Not to make him jealous , Cause you say , he's a player
Juss forget him and if hes a playa then he must think that every girl likes him. So if u act like u DONT like him then he will realize that. Juss play the playa. He will never settle unless there is 1 girl that doesnt like him. Guys like A little chase.





Kylie
you know what that makes me mad because he shouldnt be doing you like that. You dont deserve that...you know you dont. He may be cute and I know your feelin him and I know he's feelin you too. But when a man does stuff like that...it kinna makes you wonder if you can trust him if yaw do get into a relationship. I honestly would find someone else who would not do that to me. If he was really truly feelin you he wouldnt even be thinkin bout grindin up on other girls. You should really email me back and let me know what happens.
he's not even worth it.

if you do date, it wouldn't last long. it'd just be short and you'd regret it.

there would be no loyalty in that relationship,

he'll never change, at least not soon.

stop wasting your time.

good luck
You need to learn this really fast. If a guy is really in to you , you will not loose him if you dump him and tell him you are tired of his b.s. Then you make him try and get you back, but he needs to prove he is going to treat you with respect. Dont go for another guy while you are broken up. Be classy and dont try to make him jelouse. Act open to him a little but hold out to see if he starts to treat you respectfully. Dont go back untill you are sure he gets that you will not put up with it. If he is smart he will stop being a jerk.
You don't need him, so walk away.
boys like this don't change and will not settle down...they just play games to get what they want...if you really want him to feel like he missed out on something special, leave him alone...don't bother with him and don't give him what he wants...it won't hit him at first, but after a while, it'll hit him hard...i went through this with a guy...i was in your situation for literally two years and now he feels the misery...just move on with life and don't look back
if he's a player, dear, he's not going to settle down and admit that he's the lucky one. You really deserve someone better, someone with morals like you :)
You can't change a person. Most relationships fail or end up in constant fights because one or both people are trying to change the other person. You either voice what you want from him or let him go, otherwise it's not gonna be a happy ending for you. You could have the guy, but will you truly want him when he's sharing himself with other women? I know it's a dance, but if you are dissatisfied with how he dances with other women then it's not right. Another obstacle you'd have to face is trust because if it's not the dance testing your relationship, it'll surely be something else in the future. You can either trust that he's always coming home to you at the end of the day, or get what you want by letting him know you're all he needs. You have to be straightforward with him from the getgo or else you will end up frustrated, and he will just be confused. Age doesn't matter. If he makes the choice to be in a relationship, you two can either agree to be open or commit exclusively to one another, but it must be mutual agreement. You can't choose to be open relationship and get mad if he's seeing someone else. Get what you want and deserve out of this or let him go.
I think you should find someone else. You're too young to have to deal with that. There will be plenty of jerks, cheaters, playas that you'll meet along the way. But don't put yourself directly in harms way. You're just gonna end up hurt. He'll never see himself as the lucky one to have you.
First of all it's playa and not player, #2 be prepared to get played.
Yes
forget him